Finally, your dreams have come true! What could be more desirable than being legally married to your loved one? You have chosen the wedding rings, and the perfect white dress, and then suddenly you are completely overcome by a treacherous thought, “Maybe we are in a hurry?”. "Are we right for each other?" "Have we really found the love of our lives?" Questions like these and others flash inside the heads of many future brides and grooms.
Hollywood doesn’t help with moves like Runaway Bride. As time draws near to the wedding day we get visions of Julia Roberts jumping on a horse to get away from the marriage, the groom, and all the cheerful relatives. In fact, doubt is normal for any thinking person. There may be several reasons for this. Stress-induced misunderstandings, frequent quarrels, disagreements over preparations for the wedding, or inter-family conflicts. Preparing for a wedding pushes a couple outside their comfort zone on several fronts. Now they are faced with a completely new set of challenges forcing them to leave their comfort zones which is always stressful.
The opinions of the bride and groom, and their families, often differ about the place for the banquet, the number of guests, and the program of the evening. In fact, the joint organization of a wedding celebration is the first “test”. During family life the spouses will need to solve a lot of issues together, often with imposed outside interference.
At this point, you and your partner have mastered your communication skills, and have become an inseparable team. You now know the importance of hearing and understanding each other’s points of view to arrive at mutually agreed decisions. The added stress factor aside from the planning process includes justifying your decisions and convincing your families to agree. Look at this wedding preparation process as if it were your very first family project.
In any case, disagreements will arise, and this is completely normal. This is not a cause for conflict, but an opportunity to find a solution that will suit both of you. However, conflicts and stress that stem from marriage planning can give way to causing doubt about getting married. Let's look at a few reasons and consequences that cause doubts.
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