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What is Love?

 

 

"You can love the soul without knowing the body, and then go crazy by touching the body of the beloved soul." Paulo Coelho

 

Love, how we all want and strive to experience this wonderful and sublime feeling throughout our lives... And then HE or SHE appears in our life. Everything flows fabulously and harmoniously, as sung by many poets and writers in our laudatory odes and novels. We raise our beloved man or woman onto a pedestal, create an idol out of them, put a halo of devotion on them that glows with the holiness of love, and they shine for you in this halo. Because you created it for yourself, will become a problem later. The Bible says, "You should not make an idol for yourself" (Leviticus 26:1), this is so true!

 

You act so tender, loving, devoted, smart, and thrifty. You are ready to offer any sacrifice for them. You can't even imagine that someone can love them any better. It’s like you no longer exist as an individual, but these are just your ideas about of what impeccable and eternal love should be, but it’s not theirs.

 

In reality, this portrayal, while beautiful, should be reserved for novels so its readers would burn with this sublime feeling of love. While nourished and grown in the story, we are given a false impression of what love really is thanks to such writings. And this idea of love is wonderful, as it should be, because love is omnipotent. However, in life, unfortunately, too many express love more in mere words, rather than in decisive actions. This is where psychological problems like guilt, distrust of the world, fear of intimacy, and dissatisfaction with oneself can even lead to serious disorders.

 

One can only applaud those people who have lived their entire lives in true love and loyalty to each other. Thanks to these too few examples, we strive to experience this noble and sublime feeling of sincere love. However, life sometimes presents difficult challenges to our love – should we forgive, or not forgive a loved one’s betrayal? You fell so hard, and experienced pain and anguish caused by the crash of your lover falling from the pedestal of love you created. What should you do now?

 

Love is not only the sighs expressed observing a sunset, or romantic strolls under the moon, it is also the ability to understand and forgive. It's hard, but it's all about learning. Love is a colossal work of the soul and body. You must learn to rise above your mental pain and anguish, with the highest goal of keeping your relationship. Even if tragedy strikes, do not stoop to insults and violent confrontations.

 

Remember, this is a two-sided relationship. It is better to strive for a positive, mutually fulfilling, and preserving conclusion to conflicts when they arise; than to allow them to fester into a nervous breakdown, or perhaps, an even greater tragedy.

 

There is such an expression "Happiness loves silence". Remember, there are many envious and vile people in the world who will be jealous of your happiness. Tenaciously, and zealously protect your happiness.

 

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