What is More Important - To Love or To Be Loved?
Every person, regardless of gender and social origin, is born to be happy, to love, and be loved. However, unfortunately, it is not always possible to love and be loved at the same time. This is how our lives are arranged.
But still, love is the most important feeling that allows you to live in peace and harmony. But let's see what is more important: to love or to be loved.
When you love, you strive to change the world for the better. You try to make it pleasant not only for your loved one but also for everyone around you. When a person has the desire to live, they instill this feeling in those around him. As a rule, this person smiles and glows with happiness. Isn't it wonderful?
Being loved is also important. After all, when you know you are loved, then you will try to change your behavior and character, with a focus to improve yourself. There is a surge of strength for work, and for performing good deeds. Just look at your loved one: they are ready to move mountains for the sake of their admirer, and everyone around them.
If the relationship develops in such a way that the person whom God has brought to you loves you, and you just allow him to love you while having practically no feelings toward them, then then the relationship is completely out of balance. The person not in love is empowered to manipulate the other person, and many men and women use this advantage to their own gain perfectly - they gratefully accept expensive gifts and do not feel any remorse for simply using a person who has kindled a feeling of love for them.
Many people feel that in relationships, one person always loves more than the other, while the remaining partner simply allows themselves to be loved. This statement is controversial, and if we analyze it in detail, it turns out that a distribution of feelings such as this is quite beneficial to each of the partners.
Indeed, there are people who find it difficult to accept equality: they do not know how to receive and give equally, because their resources only work in one direction. These people revel in their love for the object of their adoration, and reciprocity of love is not the most valuable criterion for them.
Is it always true in relationships that one loves, while the other simply allows themselves to be loved? There is a valuable lesson here: a huge number of people do not strive for love, but for an ideal marital relationship. It would seem that this is the same thing - but no, there is a whole abyss between these two concepts. If you think that you love, and the other only allows himself to be loved, this is not a story about love at all.
It is important to remember that in a healthy relationship:
- You both strive to make each other happier;
- You both care about each other;
- You both need physical, verbal, and emotional manifestations of your love; and
- You both wait for reciprocal feelings and warmly accept them.
From this we can conclude:
Only mutual love can be accepted in a healthy relationship. Unbalanced love leads to nothing. The most important thing is to love and receive love in return with reciprocal feelings. If it is not there, no emotions or external influences will warm a relationship destined for extinction. Indifference in a partner is painful, and such a relationship will come to naught.
If a person does not love, then how long can they put on a performance and endure the other person's touches, kisses, and confessions of love? They, too, will want to live a full life and will leave to seek their own happiness elsewhere. Therefore, emotions without reciprocity do not matter, no matter who experiences them.
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