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Each of us has two wings: Father and Mother

 

Parental roles are important in shaping the nature and scope of a family. The environment they create through their relationship, and the cultural and moral standards they enforce, create a mold by which their children are shaped. 

 

For a child, the family is a talisman and a springboard to adulthood.

 

The scope of family life creates a certain moral and psychological climate. For a child, it is the first school of relationships with people.

 

Mature children transfer the model of the behavior of their mom and dad to their families.

 

It is no secret that for psychological maturity a child needs two parents - a mother and a father.

 

Part 1 - Mother

 

How does our relationship with our mother affect our lives?

 

"The heart of a mother is the universal abyss of love, care, and forgiveness. Everything beautiful in a person comes from the rays of the sun and from Mother's milk." Unknown

 

You know, each of us has such a person in life who loves us no matter what, under any circumstances, no matter what happens to us.  This person accepts us completely, despite all our shortcomings and virtues.  This person loves simply for what you are.  And that person is a mother.

It is difficult to overestimate the role of a mother in the life of any person. She is a huge influence in the heart of any child. The relationship we have with our mother impacts our adult life, the relationships we have with other people, our self-esteem, our choice of partner, and so on.

For a child, the mother is their whole world with her boundless love, consolation, and protection. Initially, children feel the most comfort next to their mothers. They don’t need to adapt, can be themselves, and are not afraid to be themselves even if they are acting ridiculous. They know they are safe around their mother because she will accept, understand, and hear them so they can show their true feelings.

 

Mother's love is unique in nature because it is unconditional, selfless, and strong. A mother is ready to give her life for a child without hesitation. And the role of such love in human life is enormous. If a child absorbs warm feelings and feels complete peace next to their mother, they grow self-confident. They are ready to cope with difficulties and move forward, knowing that they always have unconditional support behind them. This is what a loving mother means in a person's life.

 

It cannot be said that the mother of one person is better than the mother of another.  This is wrong because for everyone it is their mother who’s always the very best. In the family, a woman historically plays the role of the keeper of the hearth.  She creates comfort and warmth at home and takes care of the children.  She will always understand, advise, and never judge.  You can talk about mothers endlessly.  There are millions of them, but each carries a special skill of expressing maternal love to their own children.

 

Mothers and Daughters

 

How does a mother influence her daughter? There is an old saying, “If God wants to compliment a woman, he gives her a daughter". Many daughters if asked who they admire, who is their idol - they are likely to immediately answer that this is their mother. They admire her and believe that she’s worthy of everything her heart desires.

 

The relationship with the mother is formed throughout life, and this path begins with
intrauterine development. When a woman gives birth to a daughter, this feeling cannot be expressed in words. In the imagination, a young mother draws colorful pictures: how she dresses up her little girl in dresses, does her hairstyles, shares special secrets, and teaches her how to be attractive and feminine.

 

When a little girl grows, she always strives to recreate the maternal image of her mother. These maternal perceptions she learned concerning the basics of life for her become assimilated in her attitude towards herself, the opposite sex, and her career. Someone in life is fortunate that their femininity, self-confidence, and optimism about life were passed on to them from their mother. While others who didn’t receive the same care are faced with painfully creating who they are while struggling with anxiety, insecurity, pessimism, and developing their inner feminine qualities.

 

Steps for Mothers and Daughters

 

The first thing a mother should understand is that she is a model for her daughter. The daughter looks at her mother and learns from her. If a mother wants her daughter to be self-confident, emotionally stable, and successful, then she should emulate these same qualities. Moms should be prepared for the fact that their behavior and actions will be copied by their daughters. Daughters are a mirror of their mothers.

 

The second thing that is important for a mom is in setting the right values. A mother should teach her daughter to value family relationships, respect other people, be open to new things and be able to make wise and thoughtful decisions.

 

The third thing a mother needs to do is to teach her daughter how to communicate. Communication is one of the key skills that is essential for a successful life. A mother should teach her daughter to listen to other people, respect their opinions, be able to express thoughts and feelings effectively, form her own boundaries, and not violate others.

 

The fourth thing a mother should do is to teach her daughter to take care of herself with regard to her health, self-care, and how to be self-confident. Daughters must understand that they are important and valuable people and that they deserve respect, care, and love.

 

The influence of a mother on the upbringing of her daughter is a very important factor in the life of every girl. Mom should be prepared for the fact that her behavior and actions will be copied by her daughter. Mom teaches her daughter the right values, the ability to communicate, and how to take care of herself.

 

Mothers & Sons

 

How does a mother influence her son? The mother of a daughter and the mother of a son are two completely different images, even if they are combined in one woman. From infancy, raising boys and girls requires different approaches.

 

The harmony of bringing up boys to a large extent depends on the nature of maternal behavior. Too much activity by the mother, as well as excessive passivity, harms the psyche of the child. Finding the "golden mean" is not easy.

 

What is the ideal mother for a son?

 

First of all, the mother must remember and know that the child is a person. The main task of parents is to help the child to reveal his potential, his individuality, and capabilities. Every mother should remember that her calmness is the key to the proper development of the boy's nervous system. It is with affectionate and smiling mothers that balanced sons grow up.

 

In no case should a mother take on everything. Mom doesn't have to try to be strong all the time. In showing weakness, a woman teaches her son empathy, understanding, and support. After all, he is strong, and she’s raising a man!

 

What can a mother give her son?

 

Respect: If a mother behaves disrespectfully towards her son’s father, she can instill in the child a sense of disrespect for everyone. Do not express violently negative emotions in front of your son.

Responsibility and independence: The mother often spends more time with the children than the father does. It is not difficult to develop independence and responsibility for one's actions in a boy. Be sure to show everything by example, ask him for help, and to make suggestions, but do not impose anything on him. But ordering, punishing, and shouting is counterproductive. Loving-kindness will help you develop good qualities in your boy much faster. 

 

Gallantry: It's really nice to watch when a growing little boy opens a door for an adult woman or lets a girl go first, or assists her by offering his hand to hers. It is possible and necessary to instill gallantry in a son. Encourage him to think of helping you by lending a hand carrying the packages in from the car. Be sure to thank him for his help and thoughtfulness. Little children are extraordinarily proud of such deeds, and situations like this help build self-esteem.

 

By instilling all these qualities in a boy, constantly remembering that he is a person, you will raise a confident, thoughtful, and responsible man who will not be afraid of difficulties. He will take care of his children the way you took care of him - with affection, tenderness, and love.

 

Mom is just one part of the parental team that defines a child’s developmental environment. All parental messages - that is, what parents tell us - are built into our life script. Another very important point.  In order for a mother to be a good mother, she must feel the support of her husband.

 

Conclusion

A mother plays an important role in a child’s life. Mothers not only bear their children but also has a direct influence on the formation of their children’s personality and worldview. Of course, the role of a mother in the life of each individual person is different.

 

Love your moms no matter what. Love children and be attentive to what they absorb from you, as they say, with mother's milk. This is especially important in preschool-aged children.

 

Part 2 - Fathers

 

"It’s easy to become a father, it’s much more difficult to be one. A father’s love is not like a mother’s, there are few words in it, but a lot of tenderness, reliability, and hope"

 

A father is a dear and beloved person from childhood, who provides us not only with moral support but is also the guiding force in our lives. Let's talk a little about dad and his role in raising children.

 

Dad and mom are the two closest and most important people in the life of every child. There is a well-established stereotype that the connection between mother and child is the most important for the development of a baby.  But it turns out that the communication of the child with the father is no less important for the full healthy formation of their personality.

 

Every baby needs harmonious development, which can only be obtained if both parents are present and active in their rearing. Mom gives her child tenderness and affection, while fathers provide a sense of protection and confidence.

 

Mothers typically are the first to be more flexible and accepting of their children’s choices, sharing regrets, and offering reassurances. Fathers typically are the ones who inspire their children to try again and again to achieve success, while instilling confidence and helping a child deal with the causes of failure.

 

There is a lot of talk today about the role of a father in raising a child.  Experts note that it is quite difficult to grow a full-fledged personality, be it a boy or a girl, without a male influence. No one can deny the possibility of success in the field of education without a father, but as life shows us statistically, this is a rarity.

 

While a child’s growth depends on the successful performance of both parents, the father's role cannot be replaced because they give their children something no one else in the world can give them.

 

The father is the guide to the child's world. It is Dad who uses the situation of the world around him as an interactive constantly changing playing field. Dad teaches the child the principle of cause and effect, and Dad knows how to use ordinary things in an unusual way and thus expand the boundaries of the child's consciousness.

 

Dad is not afraid of exerting moderate stress on his children because he knows that will result in tempering them and sharpening their focus.

 

Fathers and Sons

 

The influence of a father on the upbringing of a son is one of the most important aspects that can have a huge impact on the life of a boy and a man in the future.

 

The father is the main male model for the son, and his behavior and actions can determine the future of the son. First of all, a father should be an example for his son. He demonstrates good moral and ethical principles, being responsible, respectful, and patient.

 

A father should teach his son what is important in life and help him develop as a person. The father also teaches his son skills that will help him become successful in life. For example, he might teach his son sports skills, help him develop his creativity, or teach him social skills. These skills will help your son become self-confident and successful in his future life.

 

The father also teaches his son to be responsible and independent. He teaches his son to take responsibility (which many are afraid of) for his actions and decisions, as well as teaches him to be independent and independent. This will help when he makes important decisions and takes responsibility for his actions. In addition, the father teaches his son to be kind and compassionate.

 

He teaches his son to respect other people and to show kindness and compassion to others. These qualities will help the son become a better person and build relationships with other people.

 

A father can help his son develop a sense of responsibility for his actions and life in general. He can teach his son to make decisions, talk about his experiences and mistakes, and help him find a way out of difficult situations. The father is actively involved in the upbringing of the child, spending time with him, and engaging in common affairs and interests.

 

This will help strengthen the relationship between father and son and will also allow the father to better understand his child and his needs. The most important thing is that it is by looking at his father that the son learns to communicate with his mother and in the future a girl and wife.

 

Fathers and Daughters

 

A father’s influence highly impacts the fate of his daughter. Her success in her personal life, her choice of partners, and her relationships with them is the area of ​​​​paternal responsibility. For girls, nurturing contact with their fathers is incredibly important - kisses, hugs, gentleness, leadership, sensitivity, kindness, encouragement, and emotional support will help grow and nourish their self-esteem.

 

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